Last evening, Donna and I were out for a walk after the seasonal April showers. On our way back, we decided to grab some coffee at a nearby café. “Bob, today everything is on me! Order whatever you like!” she said, her excitement palpable as she had been awarded ‘best administrative professional of the month’ at work.
“Congratulations, Donna! I’m so proud of you.” I said, as we settled into our seats at the café.
However, as we sat there, Donna’s cheerful demeanor seemed to fade as she confided, “Bob, lately I’ve had to miss Ethan’s dance event and Emily’s birthday! I’ve tried so hard but it feels like I can’t balance both work and family equally. Sometimes it’s the kids and sometimes it’s work. I wish I could do both,” she sighed.
“Oh Donna, I understand that balancing both can be challenging,” I reassured her. “But here are five ways that have helped me to optimize situations like this:
Set Priorities and Boundaries: Identify the most important events or moments for the kids, and prioritize them over work commitments when possible and vice- versa. Take the time to reflect on what you value and what you can compromise on.
Communicate: Be open with your colleagues and supervisors at work. Let them know about important family events in advance so you can plan your schedule accordingly.
Quality Over Quantity: It’s not always about the amount of time you spend with your kids, but rather the quality of the time you have together. Make the moments count, even if they’re brief.
Seek Support when needed: Don’t hesitate to take help at work or at home from family members and trusted friends to support you in spending time with your kids.
Be Kind to Yourself: Donna, know that you’re doing the best you can in this situation. Allow yourself to let go of the guilt and cherish the moments you do have with Ethan and Emily.”
Donna nodded thoughtfully, taking in my suggestions. “You’re right, Bob. I need to find a balance that works for me and my family. Thank you for always listening to me,” she said appreciatively. “The kids are performing a small skit on Earth Day. I will let my colleagues know and complete my work in advance. Would you like to join too?” Donna asked. She looked visibly relieved, and I was glad to see that.
“Yes, Donna! I would love to be there and cheer them on!” I replied warmly.
