It’s not easy to reconcile yourself to a life after a break up. There may be feelings that tell you that you should move on, while there’s also another part of you that says, it would be nice to have that person back in your life again. So what do you do when you really want to rebuild the relation which has fallen apart? The first thing that I think you should do is reflect. Think and look for reason why you want to go back. That obviously takes you to those lovely memories you have of your partner. Think deeper. Look for reasons that have lasting value: like traits in the person that you liked, was your partner reliable and responsible and questions like that.

Your first step would be to establish contact with your ex. But try not to come across as repentant or miserable. Let that person not think or get this idea that you are in need of emotional support. Maintain your dignity and confidence. Resume talking terms with neutral issues and try to steer clear of topics that led to the break up. If your ex drifts that way, don’t fall for it. You may also get sneered at, so be prepared and maintain your calm. This is just an expression of hurt that the other person felt because of the break up. So let it not put you off.

To build something up again after it has been partially damaged is not easy. It takes a lot of patience and effort, and lots of care. If you really feel you are up to it, go for it. But make sure you are not doing it just because you are lonely or you want a relationship on the rebound. How to figure that out? Stay tuned for that!