“How did the rose ever open its heart and give to this world all of its beauty? It felt the encouragement of light against its being; otherwise we all remain too frightened.” – Hafiz
Human Being essentially has one fear that is predominant and stays in the psyche at all times. It is the cause of all his knee-jerk reactions. It is what keeps him from attaining his maximum potential. It is what keeps him from making lasting relationships. It is also responsible for breakups and breakdowns. It is the fear of unknown, which leads to yet another phobia of accepting the new, neophobia.
How often have we heard of the phrase, “known devil is better than the unknown devil…”? What if the stranger is not a devil but an angel?
So what works internally in our neurological maze…?
An interesting finding in human psychology is that we behave in accordance to our belief-system. We have some fixed neurological pathways that are formed by the stories we tell ourselves in any situation and by taking the route over and over again we reinforce this trail of belief-system.
The purpose of our brain is to protect but sometimes this conditioning is self-deprecating, borrowed and false. The pathways lead us to nowhere. We seem to get lost in our own set patterns.
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We meet people for a short while or run through an experience and labels fly out of our Pandora box. “She is too sugary, must be a trickster”, “He is too critical, must be jealous”, “A bigger paycheck means more happiness.” We get stuck in the default labels of happiness.
No wonder, no relationship is stable in this world. You think you have met the perfect one and you ticked all your preset checkboxes and after just a little while the dynamics change and your ‘list’ has a big, bold, red stamp of failure on it.
We could either just sit, buckle up and enjoy the roller coaster ride of life with all the “ouch” moments and the “aha” moments or we could just close our eyes and scream in the loops and turns, gasp for breath in the fear of the next turn, even when the track is even. The fear of “what-if-I-fall” keeps us from enjoying the ride.
Have you ever wondered how our default filters get triggered and we have no control on our thoughts and eventually our words?
So what can we do to let go of the beliefs that are not working for us? Well, if I had to put it in one word based on my life-experiences, I would say, “Awareness!” If you are aware and listening to your internal dialogues and observant of outward reactions to people and things you would know where you are coming from.
So just let go and transcend your fears with faith. Don’t jump to conclusions before it’s even begun. Give others another chance and yourself a break from assumptions. Design your free flowing fountain of joy. It’s Get Happy Week! So enjoy and create happiness.
Get Happy Week, May 1-7, 2015
It’s Get Happy Week! Reach out to your dear ones and click smiles on their faces. Enjoy every moment. Send cute and warm ecards from our site to your friends/ family/ loved ones and wish that their days are full of smiles and fun.
May Day, May 1, 2015
It’s May Day! Dance around the maypole and let your heart be swayed by the beauty that’s all around. Send fun greetings to your friends and family.
Brothers & Sisters Day, May 2,2015
It’s Brothers & Sisters Day! Celebrate the special bond that siblings share, the caring, the sharing, the love and the fights which make the relationship real fun. Send warm and cute ecards from our site to make your bro/ sis feel special.
Hug Holiday Week, May 3 – 9, 2015
It’s Hug Holiday Week! So pamper your loved ones by taking them in your arms and giving them a warm squeeze. Express your love to your friends, family and loved ones.
Mother’s Day, May 10, 2015
It’s Mother’s Day 2015! Mom has the strongest and the quietest influence on us. She takes care of so many things yet she does so with a smile and lots of love. And though we feel it in our hearts, but sometimes leave our appreciation unsaid. Mother’s Day is the perfect time to show her your love and make her feel special with our funny and thoughtful ecards.
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