If you are have a true friend, if you have true love in your life, there’s bound to be occasions when you end up in a negative situation. There might be frozen talking terms or hurt egos. In times like these, you oscillate between your desire to set things correct and your natural instinct which wants the other person to come and clarify it with you. What do you do in such a scenario? The first step that you should take is a step back. Detach yourself from the situation and think objectively. It’s the hardest thing to do in a situation where you are emotionally involved. But you have to do it for the sake of the bond. One among the two of you has to take this step to resolve the issue and it might as well be you.
Try not to react. It’s very normal that you’d want to hit out at the person and say a few nasty things. But, will it help you? Will it sort the matter out? Replying with a conflicting statement will only add insult to injury and take the whole matter to a more complicated level. If possible, talk it out privately. If you must, only then involve a common friend. By no means get a friend who the other person doesn’t know. It makes the person feel that you are out to show your influence and contacts rather than patch up things. No one understands the dynamics of a relationship except the two persons involved.
A point I made while writing about how to say “Sorry” is applicable here as well. Do not sleep over a negative situation or try to cover it up saying, “Everything is ok!” If there’s an issue and you know it, hiding it will only make things worse. Talk it out at the earliest available opportunity. Be careful after things have been sorted out. It takes time to put things back on track and these times are crucial. The other person may be testing your intentions at every point of time. It takes time to regain lost faith. Keep patience and work towards nurturing the bond back to the good old days! Good luck!