Finding love after losing a loved one is never easy and to many, impossible. Once you lose the companion you have chosen for yourself, getting to love someone else becomes difficult and it’s like revisiting an old wound. Many people shy away from this because they feel they don’t have it in them anymore to give or take love. They decide to spend their days in memories. These, and many more aspects, came up when I was discussing this topic with Eleanor and Frank.
They have both loved and lost. They admit to having given up hope to find love again. They also admit that they had reconciled themselves to a life of seclusion. They also admit to having been extremely lucky to have found each other. “Ya know Bob,” Frank told me, “the greatest mistake that a person can make in these sort of situations is to compare their past love and the present. They must understand that the two of them are different people. Comparing not only insults your memories, but also plays havoc by raising your expectation to an impossible high.”
I know what he means. Living up to the good memories of the past becomes difficult for the person who’s in your life at the present. This brings about bitterness. And then things get really difficult. If you are in such a scenario, it’s best you approach your love life with a freshness that it deserves and cleanse yourself of what once was, but isn’t there anymore. Do you agree with me? Do you have an experience to share? Chime in.