It’s not easy to reconcile yourself to a life after a break up. There may be feelings that tell you that you should move on, while there’s also another part of you that says, it would be nice to have that person back in your life again. So what do you do when you really want to rebuild the relation which has fallen apart? The first thing that I think you should do is reflect. Think and look for reason why you want to go back. That obviously takes you to those lovely memories you have of your partner. Think deeper. Look for reasons that have lasting value: like traits in the person that you liked, was your partner reliable and responsible and questions like that.

Your first step would be to establish contact with your ex. But try not to come across as repentant or miserable. Let that person not think or get this idea that you are in need of emotional support. Maintain your dignity and confidence. Resume talking terms with neutral issues and try to steer clear of topics that led to the break up. If your ex drifts that way, don’t fall for it. You may also get sneered at, so be prepared and maintain your calm. This is just an expression of hurt that the other person felt because of the break up. So let it not put you off.

To build something up again after it has been partially damaged is not easy. It takes a lot of patience and effort, and lots of care. If you really feel you are up to it, go for it. But make sure you are not doing it just because you are lonely or you want a relationship on the rebound. How to figure that out? Stay tuned for that!

With International Women’s Day coming up this Sunday, I want all of you readers to meet some wonderful women who also happen to be my friends. I have persuaded these women to write a guest post on my blog everyday till International Women’s Day.

The post today is by a single mother, with two wonderful children. She’s an ace professional and an equally considerate mother. Over to my friend, colleague and one of the most amazing woman I know, Donna…

Hello Everyone!
I’m not sure you guys would be interested to know my story, because there’s no story as such! But Bob insists I write something about myself and my life and I couldn’t say no.

A story has a beginning and an end, but as I said, I have no story to relate. So let me just share with you some random thoughts about my life. I’m not a writer, so you’ll have to bear with my disjointed thoughts! Life being a single mother is not tough, though there are many people who might lead you to believe that. It’s how you see it. If your child or children fill up your life, you don’t feel the stress or the exhaustion. When you come back home and see your children smile at you, you don’t really care how hard the day has been and how much needs to be done before you can finally crash in to bed.

I think the greatest mistake a single mother can make is to think of herself as a martyr. The trick to live life to the fullest is to take stock of what you have on your hands and turn things to your advantage. If I have a problem, I deal with it rather than hold my head in my hands and complain at the unfair, unjust world. I am not brave, I panic when my children Ethan and Emily get ill. But I know that I have to call the doctor and arrange for medical attention, so I can’t afford to go hysterical.

To all of you single moms out there, I’d like to say that you must at all times keep the hope alive and the chin up; remember that we have to set an example for our children and we cannot falter on that. Motherhood is a privilege and an honor. We can only respect that honor when we respect ourselves and live with dignity.

Thank you for hearing me out! Hope you all have a great time. Good luck!

Donna

This is Bob again. I think she wrote a fabulous post, despite being so hesitant about it. She’s an amazing woman, didn’t I tell you? Would you like to respond to her and wish her well? Leave a comment.

American Idol Season 8 is slowly losing the frills and coming to the main countdown with twelve finalists. This week saw twelve of them perform to lay claim to the remaining six slots to make the final twelve. Adrian and Irina looked a little disappointed to watch the episodes. Adrian looked particularly upset because one of his favorites, Arianna Afsar, did a “washout”, to quote Irina.

This provoked Adrian to remark that Irina’s favorite among the performing American Idol contestants, Nathaniel Marshall, looked and sang horribly and he couldn’t decide which one was more horrendous! This set off a real fight between the two and they started bickering at each other. When I shut the door to keep the sound out, they were still at each other’s throat, stabbing occasionally. I get amazed at these two. Almost every week they end up fighting. No, this is not the amazing part. The amazing part is that they forget all about it and the very next week they are seated in front of the TV, with soda and snacks!

Fighting among friends is nothing new. I think if you are really friends, you will have fights because both of you will have different choices in more than one matters. With friends, you feel free to express what you think without worrying about attaching explanatory notes. And then there’s clash of opinion. The point is Adrian and Irina parted ways, each expecting their favorite participants to stay on and the other’s favorite to get ousted! Who do you think will bow out of American Idol Season 8?