Friends. Rachel. Both names tumble out of the same cell in my brain. And I think it goes true for many of you as well. Jennifer Aniston, our very own Rachel, shot to fame with one of the best sitcoms ever. After doing several romcoms and her high profile marriage and subsequent divorce with Brad Pitt, you can never deny that Aniston has covered a long journey. But fans of Rachel think that she could have been among the legends if she had handled her career in a better way.

Adrian, another Jennifer Aniston fan, thinks she lost track of it after her marriage with Pitt fell apart. He also believes that her failed marriage made it impossible for her to focus again, and she lost it completely then on. Though I don’t agree with him on everything, but there’s a certain sense in that. Do we have a lesson to learn from here? It would be very easy to say that we must not lose sight of our professional goals when our personal life goes into a tizzy, but it’s a lot easier said than done.

I mean, would you like to come in and work when you have had a bad fight with your spouse? As professionals, it’s absolutely important that you leave your personal problems outside the door of your cubicle. But, I refuse to believe that it is always possible for even the most hard-nosed professional. If that was possible, no one would put up snapshots of their dear ones on the pin-board or on the monitor! What do you think? Can you switch off your personal self before you enter office? Chime in.

Taking up from where I stopped in the newsletter, wishing well and moving on is not really the easiest thing to do. You could be angry with your ex, or just vindictive. You could be nursing a bruised ego, you could also be looking at the broken pieces of your relationship, willing them to build up again. But such thoughts only stop you from seeing the bigger picture. You end up thinking in circles and your thoughts revolve around your ex. How to get out of this loop that spirals you down?

Let go. Let go of those thoughts that make you angry. Let go of those memories which haunt you. Let go of those promises you held close to your heart as scared, which now prick you like nettles. Once you come to terms with yourself, you’ll find it in you to forgive and forget. Engage in some activities that take your mind off the broken relationship. Do things you feel nice. Meet up friends you neglected because you gave all your time to your love. It’ll take a while, but slowly you’ll evolve and then you can actually do a Kate or a Jeffrey (for more, read here).

If the relationship fell apart for reasons other than love, you are bound to feel attached to your ex. If you have been in true love with the person, you’ll want that person to be happy and prosper. There’s no denying that, how much you might feel that the person would have been happiest with you. Have you had such feelings in your life? Would you like to share?

ABC’s show The Bachelor is riding the waves. There was a lot of curiosity generated about who Jason Mesnick was going to choose. Donna follows this show and she’s quite a fan. She has been speculating for days whom Jason wanted to pick. I think almost everyone who had the time on their hands joined this collective speculation. All that was put to rest when Jason chose former cheerleader of the Dallas Cowboys as his partner. There was high drama before he decided on Melissa Rycroft. Donna admitted that she was under the impression that Jason Mesnick was going to choose Molly Malaney.

But things didn’t happen that. Molly supposedly cried her way out and Jason proposed to Melissa with a huge ring. Very well. There was a twist after that. Jason Mesnick is believed to have muttered amidst tears that he still loves Molly! I was openmouthed when Donna told this to me. She added, “It might all be scripted, you know!” Scripted? If it is, they must be hiring some new writers who can come up with some better ideas. And if it is not scripted, I could not really understand what exactly Jason Mesnick wanted to prove by proposing someone for marriage and then shedding cans of tears in memory of the woman he rejected.

If I take it that the only reason for Jason choosing his partner is love, then that reason is not valid after he openly admitted he loves another. There must be some other parameters that he took into consideration. What could be those reasons? Is this just another case of celebrity circus? Do you find any credibility in these types of reality shows?