Gears and girlfriends don’t really go together but there’s a lot of stuff out there that your girlfriend might be interested. Gifts, not only have an artistic value, they can also have an utility value. And if your girlfriend is into sports and athletics, it’s definitely a very good idea. There are lots of choices that you can make. You can give her a heart-shaped wrist-band. You can also get her nice looking sports vests or track pants. Then there are a lot of back-packs that can really cheer her up this Valentine’s Day. Ultimately, it’s how innovative you can think of, depending on the tastes and preferences of your love.

These gears will not only show that you care, it will also express that you have a keen interest in your girlfriend’s personality and pursuits. If she’s into sports, she’ll definitely feel encouraged if you give her a sporty gift this Valentine’s Day. She’ll also feel that you have thought about the gift that you are about to give her. That will earn you brownie points, mark my words! The idea is always to make her feel special and if you can do it this way, why not? And with everyone going for lovey-dovey stuff, you will be a significant departure! What do you say?

As Valentine’s Day comes close, some of you could be in a sort of dilemma like my friend Steve. It’s nothing abnormal or uncommon, rather it’s something that can happen to anyone of you. Okay, to cut the long story short, I’m talking about falling in love with a friend. Steve started off his equation with Natalie as a friend, but now he wants that to bloom into love. But he’s unsure of how he will approach and while he gathers enough steam to go up and tell her about his feelings, he wants to keep things under wraps. He doesn’t want his face or words to betray his emotions. He’s worried about causing hurt to her by making unreasonable and unjustified demands on her time. And I think, he’s right here.

There are sometimes when such things happen. Why, just a few weeks back I asked Berka out! That was a wrong step that I took. I don’t want any of you to hasten things up in these cases because once the good rapport is somehow hampered, it requires a lot of effort to get that spontaneous friendship again. If you guys are in a similar knot, I’d suggest you to take it easy and be as normal as you can. If you find it difficult to contain your feelings, discuss it with your friend frankly, making it clear at the same time that your feelings are entirely yours and you have no intention of making it an extra baggage to your friendship.

This takes the pressure off your friend who’s confused by your confession. Then you can talk it out like two mature people. Try to understand your friend. You wouldn’t want to hurt your friend by trying to prove you are right. Let this discussion not affect the friendship and whatever you do, stay away from emotional blackmail or corny lines! They only make you look like a person who believes in the grab-and-snatch method. Maintain dignity at all costs and who knows, your maturity in handling this might as well get you your love! Write to me with your ideas and suggestions for our friends.

Since Kaitlin agreed to move in Rick’s been thinking of popping the big question. So he’s been doing a bit of “diamond shopping” and guess who he calls up for it? Yes me! As if I’m the ladies man or the romance expert. I’m still trying to figure out my love life! And it surely does not help when friends call up asking such questions! But, anything for friends, right?!

But, that anything can be a a lot when it is Rick you are trying to counsel. He has his own ideas about shopping and beauty and if he’s not stopped from buying on his own, Kaitlin will surely flare up to see the stuff he’ll buy! He believes anything expensive has to be big, and that is true value for money! He wanted to buy a diamond ring that was expensive, but not classy. It was big, but not beautiful. I tried telling him that women look for sleek, classy rings and it’s not necessary that the value of the ring reflects on the size of the diamond.

I also asked him to think what Kaitlin likes and dislikes when she chooses a ring. Does she like simple designs or intricate ones? He couldn’t remember and asked me for some time to think about it! I gave up and tried not to think about it anymore. Megan called me later and told me that Rick called her as well. Same questions. Megan sounded exasperated. Do you have any advise that you want to pass onto our macho-man who’s probably going to propose to Kaitlin this Valentine’s Day? Yeah, that’s how things are shaping up. Stay tuned to my newsletter as well.